Chapter 194 - 191: Prepare Your Mood
Marriage is a matter for two people, yet it is not.
Some people treat it as if it concerns only themselves, regardless of the opinions of friends or parents; they take advice but do not allow it to sway their personal decisions. The path they choose they must follow, even on their knees if necessary, without requiring others to take responsibility. Whether happiness or unhappiness follows, they bear all consequences alone, without blaming heaven or others. They would not place blame on their partners—should they blame anyone, they would blame only their poor judgment in choosing a partner.
Others see it as a matter between two mature individuals who depend on each other and lead their private lives behind closed doors. Even in disagreements, it’s merely an internal issue between the two of them. Regardless of others’ opinions or wealth, and irrespective of compatible family backgrounds, they don’t care too much. Whether their family and friends agree or not doesn’t matter; the couple stands united. They alone know what they feel.
However, more often than not, marriage involves three families. Members of two families join together to form a new household, functioning as one larger family. Your relatives become mine, and mine become yours; it’s hard to separate them. If they get along well, all is good, but if these three families cannot balance their relationships well, with mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, and sons-in-law failing to get along, continuous quarrels for the sake of family make the couple’s life burdensome and hard to sustain their affection.
Marriage involves not just love, but daily life.
Qin Guanglin had pondered a lot, considered a lot, yet the one reaction he had not anticipated was that of He Fang.
"Meeting your father-in-law isn’t the same as getting married. If I let my dad meet you early, it’ll save you from thinking about it all the time; consider it a reassurance pill."
He Fang saw him stunned there and finally couldn’t help laughing, though she didn’t tease him further.
The more you care, the more you think; she knew that Qin Guanglin hesitating at this last moment wasn’t due to lack of affection but because he cared too much.
He was worried her family wouldn’t like him.
"I urged you because you didn’t think this much before. Now that I think about it, meeting them so early might not be appropriate..." Qin Guanglin looked up at her, speaking softly, "My mom likes you; that’s a good start. I don’t want any problems at your family’s side nor conflicts between you and your family because of me.